Moving to Ireland in two months!

After uploading a video for Vegaway about the fact that I am going to be moving to Ireland, I may as well announce this huge change here!

As you may know, I am a 22 year-old portuguese girl that is currently working in three jobs while lives with their parents in Portugal. Being proud to be an independent woman, this is not the situation I pictured myself in when I thought about where in life I would be at this age. The fact is that this is a temporary situation that goes on since about six months ago due to my need to earn money. The purpose has always been to move to Ireland, right from the time I did the road trip around Ireland that I have been writing about for the past few weeks.

I was supposed to move to Ireland in June 2018 but the fact is that I can’t wait that long. I do not like the situation I am in here in Portugal. Even though I like being close to my parents, I do not like to live with them since I seem to be unable to be independent here.

The initial planned date was June 2018 for a reason. The process for me to be recognized as a Physiotherapist in Ireland takes time and resources at it will not be finished until three or four months from now, assuming the answer is positive. Having decided to move to Ireland two months before the initial plan, in March 2018, I expect not being able to work as a Physiotherapist right away. This little bump is the reason why I am currently trying to find an unrelated job to start earning money right since the moment I land in the beautiful island.

I will be living in Hector’s house, which will help me settling in. I still need to pack all my stuff and solve some unresolved issues here in Portugal. At least I already resigned from all my jobs here, which is a huge relief. I do not feel like I have too much to do before moving, which is why I feel happy as opposed to overwhelmed.

If you are interested, stay tuned and I will be sharing my experience, both here and on Vegaway. It may be interesting for someone who is moving to other place as well or even if you are simply curious about how a portuguese girl copes with moving to a rainy country.

I fell in love with Ireland and I can’t wait to be there!

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Online presence

Being online can be overwhelming, specially if you treat it as more than just a way to share personal information with friends. That is mainly due to the fact that each of us has many accounts that we do not use on a daily basis.

I have been reducing the number of online accounts I own for the past few months and I believe I have reached a point where I can monitor all my accounts on a regular basis.

Today I will be sharing with you all the accounts that I want to be public. I will also be sharing why I chose not to have accounts on several mainstream platforms.

Online places where I am

  • Blog Alexandra Pedro

Here is where I can express myself in all the possible ways. I can share everything I do on the other online places where you can find me. Basically, this is my digital home.

Vegaway is my brand. It is mainly about lifestyle, even though I do give myself some space to be creative. I like to record videos and I found it is a great space for me to find my voice, alongside this blog.

  • Instagram @thevegaway

I will be honest with you. I am not a fan of Instagram. Even though that is true, I do like taking pictures and I do need to find the necessary audience to create the community I desire both over this blog and the previously mentioned YouTube channel. Instagram is really popular right now and that is why I feel the need to use it to share the photos I would otherwise share in this blog. This will feature mostly food and places I visit, even though it will not be limited by those!

Besides sharing my reads here, I have two Goodreads groups: one in portuguese called Reading About and one in english called The Milexy Universe. This is where I can express all my literary thoughts, even though I usually replicate the best ones on this blog.

Online places where I am not

  • Facebook

Even though I do own a personal account in Facebook, for now, it is only used for personal purposes.

  • Twitter

Twitter never felt useful to me. Even though it is quite easy to build number of followers, I find it more interesting to share my thoughts both on this blog and on Instagram.

  • Pinterest or Tumblr

I feel like both these platforms can be overwhelming. I do remember feeling that way when I used them. That is why I chose not to use them.

 

I recommend you take a piece of paper (either physical or digital) and write down all your accounts. That will give you better insight on what you have going on and help you manage them easily.

Why should we choose an alternative lifestyle?

Being animals, we are all quite similar in the matter of needs, such as represent on the Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs included below.

hierarchy of needs

That should lead us to think that we all need equal environments to fulfil those needs, but that is not what happens in that daily basis. Our individual characters, created both by genetic inheritance and experiences, lead us to be very specific about those needs.

Looking at the physiological bottom of the hierarchy, there is food, for example. While my brother will happily settle for a huge piece of dead cow, I would probably rather starve than eat that (how stubborn of me). He would not settle for my plant-based diet either. Even though the physiological need is the same, we choose different paths to fulfil it.

How many hours we sleep, the way and with whom we have sex, the amount of family members we want to have around us, the amount of property we need to own and to live in, the amount of friends we need, are all examples of how diverse our needs may get.

Lately I have been studying a little more about properties, mainly through watching videos online. There are so many different ways to build your house and so many different ways to live in it. I grew up in a big house, with plenty of room unoccupied. Watching these videos for the past few weeks I realize how much money and effort my parents put into a house that is only partly being lived in. I probably will not want a house this big but I will definitely give more use to the space surrounding it. This house worked for my parents and mine will work for me.

These are small examples of how alternative lifestyles may improve our life. If we would all live the same way, there would be no room for our personalities. Being vegan or having a tiny house may work better for someone than eating corpses or having a huge mansion. And that is fine.

Miserable present

Carpe Diem

Being the Dead Poets Society‘s enthusiast I am, I was supposed to follow that simple ancient statement that urges us to seize the day. That is not what has been happening over the past few months.

Being in a country you do not want to be in, working at a job you are not so interested in while working another that you simply love and can’t get enough of and living away from who you want to be close to, your life can easily lose its purpose. When I think about why I am doing all this, I keep telling myself it is because I want to work as a sports physiotherapist in Ireland. Even though that goal still pushes me forward and helps me keep going, I noticed I have not enjoyed my past few months. I am idling and I do not want that.

I feel truly miserable most days. I keep crying all the time. I keep complaining about most things. Surely there are happy moments, but those are not so common. Those positive moments are not enough to make up for all the negative ones that fill my days.

Spending an average of 2 hours a day driving between jobs is not the recipe for happiness, I find. It rather feels like a key ingredient for a burnout. I probably should give up on one of my jobs but it is not that simple since I can’t actually choose one that I am willing to give up on.

My social support system is also falling apart. I feel lonely all the time. I do not feel I have someone to talk to. I do not have meaningful relationships at the moment, mostly due to how far I am from my friends.

As of today, at half past ten pm, I feel like I am not doing things right. I am not living in the moment. I am miserable and I keep watching these videos of people that changed their lives through minimalism or living in tiny homes or quitting their jobs, and I keep wondering when I will be able to do the change I want and if I will feel happy by then.

 

Sunday, 22nd October 2017

My partner in boredom for today

What do you do when you’re about to leave to a possibly boring event, such as a company dinner or a conference you really don’t care about, and you’re anything but excited? You bring a book with you!

Taking a book with me ever since I remember to every possibly boring event I took part of over the years has definitely helped me getting over those moments when all I wanted to do was leaving or taking a nap.

Today my choice will be the spanish version of Memories of My Melancholy Whores, by the one and only Gabriel García Márquez. This promises to be an entertaining book and I’m sure I’ll be able to escape reality if I need to open it!

Image result for memorias de mis putas tristes goodreads

Finished CV. What now?

I’ve been working hard on my CV for the past couple of days and I feel it’s a rather good CV for someone who’s just finished her degree (I’m going to complete my physiotherapy’s degree in july). The thing is that I don’t feel it will be worth anything in a world of connections.

I don’t talk that much and I feel I’d be better of if I’d have a bigger number of people that enjoy my personality rather than a CV with some interesting content. It’s hard to get to know someone through a CV. I could’ve lied. I know people that do that. How will an employer know that I’m not lying and that I’m actually able of doing what I mentioned I’m good at?

And how am I supposed to compete with people that are lying on their CV’s? Besides that, how am I supposed to compete with people that have an year experience? Why would someone pick someone who’s just left college besides the fact that I may admit to receive less money than someone with some experience?

It’s a scary world I’m about to enter but I’m sure I’ll make something out of this. I have to both concern myself about being the best physiotherapist I can and to find a job in which I can evolve without too many worries.

Am I anxious all the time?

Something crossed my mind today while I was standing in a social situation. I wasn’t feeling anxious but I was moving my hands in a way that definitely implied I was feeling that way. Not only that, I couldn’t speak properly. I then realized both those aspects happen to me all the time. Is it that I’m so anxious all the time I don’t notice it anymore? Is it the same with depressive symptoms? Am I so numb that when I feel happy I’m not happy at all? Are peace and happiness two feelings I don’t know yet? Am I compromising? Even though I think that may be what’s happening there’s no way for me to be sure.